[from a single woman's perspective]
…. we would never have to question “what ifs” because we already live it. “27 Dresses” would just be a movie and not the story of one’s life. Our experiences being the single girl would not be lived vicariously through Carrie Bradshaw. The only bags we’d carry would come from actual stores, not the shopping cart of a healing heart. If only we lived in a land of magic.. Something Disney like, but not Neverland because there’d be no room for growth. After 25, why does having a decent job, great friends, a beautiful family, life, and other amazing things add up to almost nothing when you have no one to share it with? Self-love is always a beautiful thing, but in reality you’re still alone. What happens when the acceptance of being alone reverts back to the feeling of loneliness? Carrie Bradshaw was right when she said, if you’re not getting married or having a baby after a certain age, there’s really nothing to celebrate you. Maybe we should have “another year of being single“ anniversary celebrations and “I survived another year without getting knocked up” parties. When will love songs and romance movies stop being fantasies and become reality?
Dating? Now that’s a different story. What happened to COURTSHIP? Does it only exist in TV world? Is getting to know one another no longer a requirement? Has the recession expedited the relationship process? When did sex become the prerequisite to a relationship, or dating even? EFF that! I want courtship! As I shared earlier with my twarlings, the perfect date for me would be simple. It would consist of a nice evening at one’s home watching movies, playing uno, pizza, beer/wine, and coloring books. Another would be a picnic in the park after a museum visit. On a rainy day, we could spread a blanket on the living room floor and picnic inside watching The Discovery Channel. Did I mention all of these dates are recession approved? Dating it the best way to avoid premature ejaculation! [No pun intended]
Self Love? Oh yes, it’s there definitely! No mask can cover it! It’s the best relationship you’ve ever had. You can never love yourself too much, yet there comes a time when you should selflessly allow someone else to experience it. Who? Who’s worthy? Why does it seem as if the ones interested in you, turn you off and vice versa to be honest. Then there comes the R word. Rejection! No one wants to go there, so it’s avoided completely. Are we missing out on our “someone” by not taking risks? Life would be easier if we could go back to grade school with the “I love you, do you love me? Circle yes, no, or maybe”letters. This way we could always get over the “no” by recess and have hope in the “maybe.” Nowadays, even an internet rejection can crush one’s ego.
Is it me or is the single life more complicated than relationships?
Random Question/Thought: When we find boredom in single city, does this mean we’re no longer happy with ourselves? Or, does it mean we’ve advanced and now it’s time for a promotion?
As always,
LIVE|laugh|LIVE|love|LIVE!!
Shenna Nanette
Didn’t Common say in a lyric that “loving you is loving me”? I completely agree that ‘self-love’ is one of the most important relationships you can have, but when you allow yourself to love and be loved, it can only multiply the love that you already have for yourself… mirrors can become useless when you can see your reflection in another person’s eyes, and love both of the people looking back at you.
God said love thy neighbor as thyself. Therefore self love is the key to happiness. Great blog Shenna.
MLR
I absolutely love this blog. you are so talented.. fi truee! I speak alot about loving being single but after a while when you are content with yourself ..how happy can you be if theres no one to enjoy it with.. that is the truth… however i do feel that dating is really complicated as well as relationships.. therefore i confess i have subjected myself to the just wanna chill and beat nonsense!